New Years Resolution and Intentions

The idea that "this will be that year that you (fill-in-the-blank)" often motivates...

The idea that "this will be that year that you (fill-in-the-blank)" often motivates...

1. a firm decision to do or not to do something.*

1. the thing that you plan to do or achieve : an aim or purpose*

Happy New Year!

It's 2022 and we are so grateful you've invited us in on this part of your adventure. The New Year can bring a lot of excitement with it. There's a pull to start fresh. The idea that "this will be that year that you (fill-in-the-blank)" often motivates us to dive in and make changes and resolutions. It can also bring a heaviness if you had unfinished business from last year or didn't accomplish what you wanted to. Whew—the New Year can be a lot, no matter how you look at it.

If you listened to the last episode in December, Andrea and I chatted really briefly about how we feel about the New Year. Honestly, I'm less of a "dive in and get started" person and more of a "let's just slowly wade in and see what happens" New Year kinda gal. While I think resolutions work for some people, I know that I am not one of those people. Resolutions can take a turn (and not for the better) for me. Just look at the definition of it: a firm decision to do or not to do something. With resolutions, I end up pushing myself too hard to make things happen and lose all flow OR I fail to do what I set out to do and then feel guilty and judge myself.

After years of trying to put myself into a resolution box that really couldn't contain even an inch of my light, I gave up on them and I now focus on intentions instead. Why? Resolutions feel hard and fast. Like how am I supposed to know for sure how I want to grow this year? It would be like standing in the garden and telling a rose plant how to bloom. Ok plant, you're going to grow this leaf and then this leaf. Now, I want a bloom here and here and in this very color. Gah—that sounds painful to me! Instead, I focus on what I want to feel more of. This idea allows me to focus on the core of what is important to me and let the "how" work itself out as I go. It also gives me the space to adjust my intentions. If one doesn't feel good to me, I can shift it into something that resonate mores.

Here are a few examples of how I would shift traditional resolutions into intentions:

  • "I am going to diet and lose 10/20/30 lbs. this year" would translate into "I want to feel vibrant in health." This may mean looking at how I eat, but it may also lead me to look at my stress levels, how I am sleeping, etc.
  • "I am going to spend less money this year" could be  "I want to feel more financially aware and support my long term goals." This may mean spending less, but it may mean investing in things that are really great in the long term—which would be spending money initially.
  • "I am going to travel more."  Another way to look at this would be to ask yourself, "How do I feel when I travel?" For me, travel brings joy, but it isn't the only way I experience joy. I also realize that it quenches my thirst for new perspectives. My intention could be, "I'm going to consciously create more joy in my life and sate my curiosity in new and creative ways." Yes, I may travel more, but I may find new ways of expressing this that are as fulfilling or more so.

It's not that you can't work towards something specific for your New Year. You just need to pause and ask yourself "Why am I wanting to do this?" Get to the root of it. And if you find in February that your resolution or the form you thought it would take isn't working, then promise yourself you'll have the courage to let it go without guilt and shift it to something that is in alignment with where you are.

P.S. If you're looking for a new way to start the New Year, check out my new workshop, Word of the Year. In this LIVE experience, we work together to find a word that acts like a guiding light or a compass to your year. I help you set your intentions and you play with how those intentions may manifest. It's a fun 90 minute workshop, that helps you explore the possibilities for your New Year. Learn more about Word of the Year here.

*definitions from the Oxford Language Dictionary

Jessica Paschke

Jessica Paschke

Intuitive Guide | Medium

I help bridge the gap and act as a guide to greater clarity and deeper joy, helping you to tap into your inner truth and knowing empowering you to co-create an authentic life based on your own personal truth, experience, and wisdom.